October 11, 2010

A LOVE STORY....

This is not an ordinary love story....this is a story of an endless, never tiring love between a daughter and her mother. My grandmother, who turned 99 on September 20th, has lived with my mom for the past 8 years. During these eight years, we have watched Grandma go from a very independent woman..still driving until the age of 93..to a woman who had to learn to depend on my mother for even the simplest of things. Although my grandmother's mind was as "sharp as a tack", her poor little body was growing weary. My mom, who at the age of 78, has been her best friend, her caregiver, her constant companion. Grandma always worried about Mom...Mom always worried about Grandma. For the past three years, I witnessed the most loving and giving care a daughter could possibly give to her elderly and frail mother.

This morning, my mom had to make the most difficult decision of her life. My grandma, had been on life support for the past few days. In our hearts, we knew she would never come home, but my mom always had hope...today, mom was ready to let her go. Grandma went so peacefully, with mom, myself & my husband, my two brothers, and her great grandchildren surrounding her bed...all saying prayers and quietly telling her how much they love her and will miss her. My mom was the bravest of all....she never left her bedside, holding her hand, telling her everything would be alright.

My youngest son said it was the end of an era..but I thought later that it was a continuation of an era...she left a lifetime of love and wonderful memories. I hope I will be able to show the same love and patience to my family as my mom did over the past few years to her mom and my grandma to her....it was truly a story of love....




My grandma...We love you and will miss you so much.

19 comments:

Alice ~ Folk Art Primitives said...

Oh, dear Bobbie ~ a bittersweet story for sure ~ it's hard to let a loved go ~ but a decision made out of love. Thanks for sharing your family's story ~ my heartfelt condolences to you and to your sweet mama ~ how hard this day must have been for her ~ for all of you! Kind thoughts to you and yours ~ Alice

Rugs and Pugs said...

Oh Bobbie ~
What a beautiful story. It brought tears to my eyes and an ache in my heart. My heart goes out to you, your mom and the rest of the family. May you be comforted knowing she is at peace.
My younger son and I were with my mom when she passed away. I feel so fortunate that my mother allowed me to be there.
Prayers and hugs coming your way.
Lauren

Myra said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Your mother and grandmother are great examples for all of us to follow.

Kathy (woolfind) said...

Oh Bobbie, I'm so sorry. What a beautiful love story. God Bless her for her long life, and the love that she has passed on to all of you. You all seem so close. I hope your Mom is at peace knowing that she did this all out of Love. How wonderful you were all there with her. I'm glad I was there with my mil at the end also. Praying for you all to be comforted by your memories. Big hugs to all of you....

acorn hollow said...

so very sorry about your grandmother. But what a blessing of years she had. It will be an empty space in your mother's home and heart. may God bless.
cathy

Lori said...

Dearest Bobbie,
I'm so very sorry for the loss of your grandma. I will be thinking of all of your family during this time of sorrow. I hope as you share your memories you will all be comforted. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers, Lori

Jacqueline said...

I can barely see thru my tears to type this. I wish nothing but joy for you and your Mom. Your Mom sounds like a wonderful woman.

Audrey said...

What a beautiful story, one I hope my children will tell of me and my wonderful mother some day. How blessed to have so many years together although somehow it is still not long enough. My heart and prayers go out to you all. when you truly love some one, you are never ready to say good bye.

Mrs. B said...

So sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing such a beautiful story. It can truly be an inspiration for us all.

Penelope's Beehive said...

Dear Bobbie...I send you and your family my most deepest sympathy on the passing of your Grandmum. My heart is heavy for you, yet joyful for the deep love and caring that you all shared with one another.

Look to the night sky, and whenever you see a particularly bright star, you shall know that it is your Gran watching over you.

With gentle thoughts and prayers,
Judy

Sherry said...

My Dear Friend, I'm so sorry for your loss and yet very happy for you that you were all so lucky to have her for so long and all the wonderful memories that she left.

God Bless Her Soul

Sherry

primitivebettys said...

I'm so sorry for your loss, Bobbie. My thoughts & prayers for you and your family. You wrote a very touching tribute.

Lee Morrison said...

Bobbie,

You and your family are in my prayers. I am so sorry for your loss, but what a wonderful story to share. Mother and daughter....there is not a stronger bond. God bless....

Lee

anniebeez said...

oh goodness how sweet! What a lovely story! families are wonderful aren't they?

Jo Ann said...

what a beautiful story. I have been through the same, and I always said it was the most demanding job God ever gave me, but the most rewarding one I ever had. God's blessings to you and your family. I know your grandmother will live forever in your heart.

tattered 'n torn prims said...

Oh Bobbie.....what a wonderful sharing!! thank you sooo much for allowing me a glimpse into such a grand lesson!!

Your grandma was a gift to your family.....and your mom received it well!! :O) I'm sure the gift will live on in each of you as well!!

Take care....and God bless you all during this time of remembering!!
Stacey

Plumruncreek ♥ said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your Grandmother. Your mom sounds like an angel. How lucky your grandmother was to have someone take care of her.

Eric said...

I Love you Sister. Thanks for all you do to help Mom. And thanks to my best bud (your husband) for all his love and support through all this.

I love you both dearly.

E

Ruthann @Home Is Where Your Story Begins said...

I am so glad I stumbled upon your blog this evening. It is a wonderful, encouraging love story. Thank your for sharing. I am praying that you will be comforted. Looking forward to getting to know you.
Ruthann